I prefer using the Sanskrit words "Yoni" and "Vajra" instead of vagina and penis, so I will be referencing your vagina as your Yoni and your penis as your Vajra from here on out. The deepest, most intimate relationship we'll ever have in this life is with our own body: it's our first partner, our first interaction, it enables us to touch, feel, sense, and experience other people and life itself. The whole body matters, but today I'm going to talk about the Yoni or Vajra. We need to be self-aware enough to know how our body parts like to be treated. I had a wonderful person that used to do my Yoni hairdo. Her name is Brittney, many of you know her. She made the experience of sugaring or hair removal a sacred experience. Her gentle, kind touch, her laughter and distraction while ripping my hair out, and her presence, all offered the experience of getting hair removal done on my Yoni to be good. I never really thought about this much, kind of assuming that most people are like that. IT'S NOT TRUE. I moved to Hawaii, therefore not being able to see Brittany anymore for my Yoni sculpting and had to try someone new. Ouch, fuck! I felt like I had been abused, my own Yoni was actually screaming "Why are you hurting me like this, why don't you care?" That experience made me realize the kindness and awareness in which we need to treat all our body parts. Today I chose to do my own Yoni hair removal which I know how to do, lucky that I learned that skill many years ago. But to do that I needed to sit in front of the mirror. When's the last time you looked at your genitals in the mirror? I haven't looked at mine in a very long time. It made me realize all the body parts that we forget to look at, acknowledge, see, touch, and feel. It reminded me of how sometimes I have shame around my belly, my stretch marks, my flab, and that when I go beyond my own insecurity and I asked to receive touch on my belly it always feels amazing and wonderful and my belly is always appreciative. Our body parts actually have a voice! If you gave voice to your body parts today how would they want to be touched? How would they want to feel? What kind of exercise would your body like? If you can communicate with your own body and have self-awareness then you can communicate with your partner about what you like and what you don't like. Get to know your body parts deeper, better. This enables intimacy with yourself and it enables deeper intimacy with others. I often have couples shocked during a session when one of the partners is saying I want more sex, when that partner asks the other what they need that partner often says they don't know. Often the partner who is wanting sex is in disbelief because they know what they want, they can't relate to not knowing what they want. A partner that doesn't know REALLY doesn't know, so how can this partner tell their beloved what they want if they don't know what feels good? Take time to explore what it is your body wants sexually, physically, spiritually and emotionally. Your body is a true companion, it never lies, it will talk to you if you listen. When you serve your body, it will enable great sensory pleasure in which you can filter this life through.