So all of us have plans, goals, dreams and expectations, and we all deal with those things not working out as planned. I’d like to offer my perspective on that. After having the loss of a few family members within a 3 year period, my attitude has changed. I began to ponder life. Life is really time spent. So how do you want to spend your time?
I used to think I was supposed to spend my time manifesting, creating the life I wanted. What I’ve realized is that while it’s important to have a direction, a desire, a goal, it’s even more important to be flexible.
The thing I’ve noticed is that my attitude, beliefs and judgements are what allow anything that is happening to be enjoyable or not. I choose now, most of the time, to enjoy whatever is unfolding. I choose now to see ALL of life, yes even the frustrations and things that are “not going my way” as interesting, colorful parts of life. That even unexpected events can bring great blessings, or curious entertainment or learning.
I’m not saying you have no effect on what happens, but I am saying you can’t control everything. Take the next right action that’s true for you, your goals, your values, and trust that the outcome, even if it’s unexpected, will be ok.
I never knew I could be ok when my brother died, but I learned even grief is ok. I never thought I would be ok having my home in Hawaii under mandatory evacuation. Hawaii was one of my biggest, clearest dreams, goal and vision. Now I can’t be there. So I accept and enjoy and look for unexpected surprises. I’m not a victim of circumstances I can’t control, but I am a victim of my own outlook and attitude. So I choose adventure, flexibility, curiosity and presence and joy even in pain or loss. Life is amazing. Would you enjoy a movie if it was all perfect balance? Well, maybe perfect balance is ALL. Maybe there really isn’t good/bad.. maybe it’s ALL the current ever-changing reality to be witnessed, experienced and enjoyed.
After all It all passes...